The Alchemists - Transforming Narcissistic Abuse Into Gold
Greetings, my name is Mark Smith. In 1989 I founded Family Tree Counseling Associates, a thriving marriage counseling practice on the north side of in Indianapolis. I've been a successful marital therapist for 30+ years.
More importantly, on April 26, 2015 I experienced a horrific shattering at the hands of a narcissist. This book has been brewing inside me for almost two years. When I got to my favorite beach 10 days ago the words started to explode out of my fingertips. In the downloadable PDF file I have written 333 pages! I poured my heart and sold into this book.
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"Hi Mark, I have just finished reading. It touched me deeply. You must have gone through hell. But what an incredible strength I read between the lines. Reading your experience helps me understand what my father must have felt by my mother's actions. In describing your feelings and thoughts I recognized myself. You give very useful tips and undoubtedly many souls will be able to continue with there (even better) live after reading. Thank you for your honesty and trust to share your story to those who, like me, feel validated by it."
Here is Introduction To The book...
Definition Of Alchemy - “An ancient form of chemistry concerned principally with discovering methods for transmuting baser metals into gold; a seemingly magical process of transformation, creation, or combination; finding a universal solvent or an elixir of life” – Merriam-Webster Dictionary
“The art of alchemy is simply changing one form into another. Anything that causes a change in form is alchemy as well. Turning water into steam is alchemy. Changing a dry tea bag into tea is also alchemy.” - ‘The Magdalen Manuscript’ by Tom Kenyon and Judi Sion
After two grueling and traumatic years of recovery from shattering narcissist abuse syndrome I am ready to write about my experiences what I have learned for the first time. I’ve carved out time at my favorite beach and I can feel the words exploding from my fingers. Long pent up thoughts are jumping onto the page with very little thought on my part. It feels like the universe is dictating what needs to be said. While I have not been actively working on the book these past two years, the book has been working overtime on me for every minute of those two years. I have been storing and cataloging everything that I have learned so it would be at the ready when the time was right. In effect, my shattering and my journey spring-loaded the message and it is making the words leap from my fingers without effort.
I tried to write this book two years ago and I didn’t get past Chapter One due to the crippling lack of focus and the brain fog that are hallmarks of narcissistic abuse syndrome. I want to share all of my thoughts in an organized, coherent, articulate manner as I feel that would be of great benefit especially to those of you who are relatively new in your recovery process.
Several months ago a friend of a friend shared some magically encouraging words with him that really jolted me. My friend was admonished…
“Do not take your recent struggles as defeat instead consider them an opportunity to officially take the world by storm, to write your magna opus!"
I’m quite sure that this book is not going to be nominated by anyone as any sort of'magna opus' BUT it is my very sincere effort to put the world on notice that it is my single minded goal to absolutely take world by storm with this vital, redemptive message.
I work with a very insightful young woman from Germany who startled me during a recent session by saying that she aspired to be an alchemist like me. I was like, “what did you just say?” She then said,
“You are a true alchemist as you have taken mud and somehow you’ve turned it into gold”.
After assuring her that all that glitters from a far is not perhaps as high a quality of gold as it might appear, I found that I could not shake her comment. The recovery process from Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome IS INDEED about turning blood and guts and mud and shit and humiliation and trauma and shattering into personal growth, healing and ultimately a much better life than you have ever lived before. This client’s words continued to haunt me until the hidden inner writer in me just woke up a few days ago and informed me that it was time to write all of my insights into the recovery alchemy process down in a powerful, concise and systematic manner so that thousands of you who are stuck in the proverbial mud can start turning some extremely bad shit into the genuine gold of a thriving, healed, positive and heroic new life. In their book - ‘The Magdalen Manuscript’, Tom Kenyon and Judi Sion wrote
This client, who is a much better writer than I am, fanned the flames of my inspiration further when she wrote…
“You are giving invaluable service to society. Thank you for that. We live in a world of unspeakable cognitive dissonance, and you are a voice of truth in the midst of great confusion and deception. Thank you for sharing this moving introduction! These words are powerful, and I cannot overstate how honored I feel for having pushed the right buttons at the right time, so to give you extra encouragement to write a book on this very important subject. Even these initial paragraphs are beautifully written and vivid. The good use of images is definitely one of your strengths. As a scholar I know that writing a book can be a daunting task, but let me reinforce that this book is important. Far too many people are suffering because of the widespread lack of consciousness that lurks in our society through various shades of Cluster B. This is a huge problem, with political repercussions at a macroscopic level, as well. Yet, nobody speaks about it. Media are systematically feeding into the epidemic of narcissism and it´s time for someone who understands the matter to make some noise, and open people´s eyes. You yourself, in a video, mentioned the notion of a struggle between "good and evil." What you said deeply resonated with me. We need more awareness, more "good guys" to speak up against the dark side of the force.”
The goal for this book is for it to be a life giving voice of truth, healing, heart and insight for multitudes of you out there who are literally being tortured by unspeakable cognitive dissonance in a world that truly is overflowing with confusion and despicable deception. - ‘The Magdalen Manuscript’, Tom Kenyon and Judi Sion wrote… “The changes wrought by such practice (the Alchemy of Recovery) can be so profound that one feels as if one is flying above life and viewing it from a greatly expanded perspective.”
Part of why this client’s observation startled me was because I didn't really feel like an Alchemist. I felt like just a guy wrestling in the mud with mixed results against an army of vicious narcissists, flying monkeys, judgers, shamers, controllers and other mean-ass people with agendas, misperceptions and prejudices. The truth is, though, that I have consistently offered a unique, redemptive paradigm shifting message that I haven’t heard coming from any other quarters that, in fact, actually DOES have the power to transform the filthy, muddy life-scaring wounds of your narcissistic abuse into the gold of deep emotional healing and the ultimate re-imagination and re-invention of your life. To the degree that my struggles can offer some light, some energy, some direction in helping you turn your mud into gold, I offer every word in this book for your reflective consideration.
BTW, I suspect that there might be a few typos in this first release of the book. We will get those worked out, I promise. I ask for grace and for your patience with those, rather than interpreting them as carelessness or unprofessional. In ‘The Magdalen Manuscript’, Kenyon and Sion wrote
“The discipline required of an alchemist to transmute one substance to another can be considerable.”
That means that we have A LOT of work ahead of us. You can transmute nightmares into joy and this book will show you how to go about doing so.
I BELIEVE THAT THIS BOOK IS GOING TO HELP MANY THOUSANDS OF PEOPLE SUFFERING WITH C-PTSD AND NARCISSISTIC ABUSE SYNDROME. I BRING A DIFFERENT AND I BELIEVE POWERFULLY REDEMPTIVE VOICE TO THE CONVERSATION.